Guilt and Shame

Some years ago, I once had an intense disagreement with one of my friends and I said some things I shouldn’t have said. I did somethings I shouldn’t and I broke myself with my own hands.

It haunted me.

I was deeply trapped in my guilt and I couldn’t get out. It got so intense, I cut off everyone from my life.

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These were the words of Kelvin, an Australian who had been through some nasty and dark moments.

He believed what was happening to him were the consequences of his nasty action.

You see, Kelvin has been through the dark and sorrowful moments of his life and as he was explaining to me over the phone, I kept feeling his pain, the pain in his voice, the trauma of him remembering it all again.

He was not presently with his wife, and coupled with his own problems, the world always came crashing on him.

He raped someone.

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Then for years, he kept himself in his own shell, refusing to come out and seek help. He kept dying in his guilt and shame.

Kelvin’s untreated guilt led to shame. And he fell into a long and severe depression.

He has to accept all that has happened. He has to forgive himself firstly. I knew that! I had to tell him. I had to guide him.

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You see, guilty is needed in our lives.

Guilty is like the warning sign in your car’s dashboard, telling you that something is wrong. Telling you that you’ve offended yourself, someone or God. Then we sense it and do the needful.

Guilt puts us back to the right track.

Guilt reminds us that we are imperfect and we need to constantly seek help.

Guilt draws us back to God and the realization that we can’t do things on our own.

Guilt, when used rightly, can put us back to normal.

…….untreated guilt leads to shame

To be continued…..

Published by Vincent Ehindero

A co-founder and CEO of High Foster. Vincent is a humorous guy that has a wonderful talent of blending growth secrets with relatable experiences. He is also a founder of a nonprofit organization that focuses on developing children and youths.

14 thoughts on “Guilt and Shame

  1. When we sin – especially grievously, as above – we turn our backs on God – our Light. Now we shudder in total darkness. If we don’t have faith, we remain there and the guilt and shame overwhelm us, as per poor Kelvin above.
    If we turn back and confess and make reparation – yes even for such a grievous crime, our good God will help us to repair, both ourselves and those against whom we have committed such a shameful deed.
    Let us pray for the conversion of sinners – all of them!

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