What you should know about social media

The world is advancing every single day, hour, minute and second. And of course, we have to advance also.

And by advance, I’m talking about social life.

Social media came to improve our social interactions and welfare. And so far, it has been fulfilling that purpose.

But there are somethings that we do and it really affects us. And I’m going to tell you these things based on my own personal experiences.

Number one. βœ…

I followed people that aren’t related to my interest or niche, but because of the their lifestyle.

This is one of the many mistakes that most people make. I followed many big and popular personalities who lived an extravagant life. And most times, I found my self esteem diminish.

There are some people that show only the rosy part of their lives and make you feel bad.

I know of a lady who just divorced her husband and the husband ran away with the kids. She then became too depressed and started harming herself.

But this same lady took to Instagram and uploaded pictures of her in her 2019 Lexus and 2019 Mercedes parked beside her. She then uploaded a picture of her in the best restaurant in Dubai.

My point is

Sometimes we follow top people on social media and we forget that these people are also humans and have problems that they are facing.

But most of the time, you see only the better part of their lives being uploaded and think they don’t have any problems at all. You think that maybe their money or fame is solving all their problems.

And by doing this, you carry the wrong mindset. And what’s that?

The mindset that once you get to the peak of your career or life, you won’t have any problems again.

And this is just a plain lie.

Don’t let anyone deceive you. Even when you become so wealthy and famous, challenges is no respecter of your fame or wealth. So you might still battle with some challenges or the other.

So if you must follow that top person on your social media feed, understand that the person might be facing challenges like you and you will not let any of his/her wealth or fame to diminish your self esteem or self evaluation

Number twoβœ…

If social media is more of an harm than blessing to you, it’s okay to quit.

Some people believe that they would be called β€œidiots” if they openly tell everyone that they are not on any social media. Or not on a famous one.

But it’s not true.

In fact, do you know that if you can take a break from social media and build physical relationships with people, you will even be more happy and contented? Of course!

Like me, I have decided to temporarily quit WhatsApp on my phone. I have also decided to delete my twitter account also.

Why?

I figured out that Whatsapp and Twitter are the only two social media platforms that give me more of distractions than benefits.

On WhatsApp, I will spend hours reading status updates and hours on Twitter, reading trending news.

Even though I have almost 500 + daily views on Whatsapp, I still quit it temporarily because I felt I wasn’t getting enough benefits from it.

So right now, I’m focusing on growing my Facebook, Instagram and YouTube.

So if a particular platform is giving you problems or just taking away a lot of your time, it’s best to temporarily or permanently quit it.

You don’t have to be on all the social media platforms (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn, YouTube, Snapchat, Tiktok, etc)

Just pick the ones that best fits your needs and you are good to go.

I advise you just pick 3 or 4 platforms. And make sure that you will receive the utmost benefits from these platforms.

SummaryπŸ’

The two main points in this article is:

1. if you must follow that top person on your social media feed, understand that the person might be facing challenges like you are. And you will not let any of his/her wealth or fame/ lifestyle to diminish your self esteem and self evaluation and think of your own life as miserable.

2. if a particular social media platform is giving you problems of addictions or just taking away a lot of your time, it’s best to temporarily or permanently quit it, so that you can focus on other important life issues of yours.

Thanks so much for reading ❀️

Your smile is my inspiration πŸ’

Published by Vincent Ehindero

A co-founder and CEO of High Foster. Vincent is a humorous guy that has a wonderful talent of blending growth secrets with relatable experiences. He is also a founder of a nonprofit organization that focuses on developing children and youths.

239 thoughts on “What you should know about social media

      1. Thank you! I just uploaded it a while back, you can check it out! You can even donate ( if you want to) starting from tomorrow l!

        Oh wow! Even I just wrote a book! What’s yours going to be about? I’m sure it will be quite interesting πŸ˜„

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      2. You are welcome πŸ™ okay, I will check it out. Just this week, I’ve come across some fundraising campaigns, but I would try my best to help out with more. πŸ™β€οΈ

        Mine is about Growth. Particularly Personal and business growth

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      3. Thank you so much! It means a lot to me that this reaches more people so that they can contribute to the budding students!

        That sounds interesting! All the best, happy writing!! πŸ‘πŸ»

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  1. This is an amazing post! I don’t know much about social media, since the only thing I have is a blog.(I don’t know if that counts as social media) But I loved reading this☺️

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    1. Thanks Evin πŸ˜ƒ

      I think blog counts as a social media. Since we do socialize on blogs.

      You’ve never been on another social media platform? Like Facebook, etc?

      Thanks so much for reading 😊

      How are you doing Evin?

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      1. Oh okay ☺️
        No, I’ve never been on any other social media platform (I’m not allowed to)

        You’re welcome 😊
        I’m doing good, what about you?✨✨

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  2. This is so true. A hiatus from WhatsApp and Instagram does wonders.
    You see so many people who are miserable because of these apps and the social pressure, but also cannot stop using them.
    I was one of them until a few months back when I went off all social media. I realise there’s so much more outside when compared to the merits of these apps.
    And now, I am back on them, but am mostly passive!

    I really could relate to this

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    1. Your experience is very similar to mine. Many people know the self harm that social media causes, but they just can’t force themselves to stop using them.

      I wanted to write a book and for 3 years, I couldn’t complete it. It was then that I knew what must be done.

      I just picked some platforms that goes with what I do.

      Thanks so much for reading and dropping your thoughtful comment. I really appreciate it

      How are you doing?

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    1. Yes, you are absolutely right. The problem of wanting to quit but not able to, is what makes social media harmful to some people.

      Thanks so much for reading. I really appreciate it

      How are you doing?

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      1. πŸ˜…no I haven’t. I don’t intend to monetize this blog

        I will open another self hosted professional website and monetize that

        The type of community on this blog wouldn’t fit monetization

        πŸ˜‚

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      2. Yes. I thought of monetizing this one, but I have many people here who are teenagers and kids. So I felt I should open another professional website and use that website to implement my vision of becoming a growth coach, so people will get to know my website as professional not hobby. πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

        I felt I should explain more to you

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  3. πŸ’―I’m not that active on social media like I used to be, and life has been better since then. But whenever I go back and see everyone else’s life seeming to be happy and fruitful while I’m here just trying to get through a dull day, I just tell myself that social media is just an illusion! Great post! 😊

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    1. Yes, I can relate to this.

      When I quit social media for few months, I’m always so happy with my personal growth. And there’s this peace of mind that comes with the absence of social media.

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting. I really appreciate it

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  4. Interesting choices. I kept WhatsApp and just reopened Twitter. I have no emotional attachment to Twitter and I use WhatsApp for school anyways, which ended up being my main way to communicate with people.

    I quit Facebook and Instagram because they were making me feel bad. I’m considering using FB messenger again but I’m not in any hurry to use it. I don’t mind texting – it’s everything else that’s bothersome. It’s true that social media can make us feel bad. It happened to me on multiple occasions, so I started questioning it which led to taking a hiatus. 2 years later and I’m still on that hiatus.

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    1. Thanks Hilary. It’s okay to keep the platforms that resonates with our interests. Since Whatsapp is a huge benefit to you, then it’s absolutely alright to keep it.

      Exactly. Instagram especially. Sometimes we see posts of people making life look so easy. Then we question our own abilities and capabilities. This is where the harmful aspect comes in.

      Taking a hiatus is extremely sensible. The problem that most people have is that they are more concerned about what people think about their actions of taking a break from social media, instead of how mentally stable they would be if they take the break

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  5. Very good post on social media. I do not follow anyone who is a celebrity not interested in their fake life. Twitter I gave up years ago with nearly 2,000 followers I posted my own quotes, I reduced the numbers many times. Then stopped it is hard work to maintain Twitter and I do not have that mentality, I cannot be jumping through hoops all the time. Facebook I stopped using that and they have what they call community standards you can get blacklisted for going against their standards whatever they are. WhatsApp use it to speak with close friends and family only. Another difficult one to block people permanently and if you reinstall it to clear names off you only get those you blocked following you again. Most of them are annoying. WordPress is the only one I stay with.

    Blessings to you

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    1. Exactly. Extremely valuable points you’ve made.

      Twitter indeed is so much hard world to maintain. Sometimes, an account might have 10k followers and the engagements would be very minimal.

      Facebook generally is starting to lose its quality value.

      If WordPress is what best serves your purpose, then it’s alright to go with it.

      But I really love the fact that you could identify the specific problems that you have with these social media platforms and tackle it successfully.

      That shows how strong willed and powerful your mindset is. πŸ‘πŸ½

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    1. And that’s what makes you so naturally wonderful Shanessa ❀️

      The dog in your profile is like β€œShanessa, I’m so proud of you for being so intelligent and wise in choosing the right social media platforms that best suits your needs”

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      1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚scream? Okay, let me make it a little bit more scary. πŸ˜‚

        You switched off your phone before going to bed. And then you heard Siri answer a question at midnight🀣🀣🀣

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      2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚as I’m reading your reply, there’s a little animation going on in my head describing exactly how you will react πŸ˜‚

        Yeah, but won’t you run to someone’s room? If you try to, the doors would be locked 😈

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      3. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚I heard a man scream once πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚and it’s because his wife wanted to break his video game (PlayStation) 🀣🀣

        πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚spider?πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£Maybe screaming is the boy’s superpower πŸ˜‚

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      4. Yeah, you know Dads are always the tough ones. Wanting to be portrayed as strong and masculineπŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

        But sometimes, their reactions to sudden events is almost the same as screaming πŸ˜‚

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      5. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚I once sounded like a goat 🐐 and Dad was scared that a goat was in the house🀣🀣🀣

        I hid under the dinning table and sounded like a goat again. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚I quickly dashed out of the house before he could grab hold of me🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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      6. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚Maybe your dog is trying to let you know that it’s not only Dads and Mums and Boys that can scream.

        β€œ I can scream toooo!” πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        Doggy doggy, Shanessa has gotten your point πŸ˜‚

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      7. You walked into your mom’s room.
        Then you saw your mom on the bed lying down.
        She asks you to bend down to pick up her shoe from under the bed.

        But as you bent down, you saw your mom hiding under the bed, looking extremely frightened. She then tells you β€œsomeone is on top of my bed”

        What would you do? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£

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      8. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚yeah and then we might recruit other weirdos like us πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

        Yeah me too. I really like taking to you. It’s like you like funny stuffs and I like funny stuffs and it’s really rare seeing funny and wonderful people like you on WordPress

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  6. Agree…

    I stopped all social media – everything … over a year ago – I have much more peace and am much happier ❀️

    The only kind of social media I keep is this one… I like this one ALOT – way more interesting and way more uplifting ❀️

    And you are correct – you don’t ever truly know what someone else is going through. ✌️

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    1. Yes πŸ˜ƒ

      You are right. There’s a kind of peace that comes with taking a hiatus from social media

      Ever since I discovered WordPress, it’s like brightness appeared before me. WordPress has given me a second chance to set my priorities right again. I really love WordPress abs my big family here.

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      1. πŸ˜…πŸ˜…yes bro. Nahhh, nothing to be sorry for.

        You are funny and fun to be with! Even your question is a funny oneπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚like your are literally the only person that I’ve seen asking this question. πŸ˜…πŸ‘ŠπŸ½πŸ‘ŠπŸ½

        But yeah, you are funny, smart and wise. And besides **wispers in low tunes** anime watchers are always funny πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ‘ŠπŸ½πŸ‘ŠπŸ½πŸ‘ŠπŸ½πŸ‘ŠπŸ½

        Why did you ask Sam?πŸ˜ƒ

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      2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚I will still use the red one for people that make me happy and bring out the best in me.

        And you are one of them. So yeah, you deserve the red one❀️❀️

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  7. Thanks for this outstanding inspiration Vincent. I personally cut my interactions on Twitter by more than half because of its addictive nature. Also, I like to think social media is only a channel rather than a bid deal so I post when I’m comfortable and ensure that it doesn’t dictate whateve happens to me.

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    1. My utmost pleasure πŸ˜‡
      Twitter is indeed very addictive.

      Your thoughts about social media are very true and safe. It’s the way we look at social media, that determines how we will treat it

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  8. Most importantly , there are some people out there who make money off of you through their social media. Like putting up ads or something and not informing other people about it. That’s horrible!! I recently came to know about it!!

    I think they should inform other people about such things πŸ™„

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    1. Yeah, they either use ads or affiliate marketing. (Where you make purchases through their sites and they earn commissions for them)

      Well, some people will tell you about it. Others might not tell you about it.

      I guess it’s the character that differs.

      But if it’s me, if I would do it, I will definitely inform them.

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      1. Yeah , marketing tactics and allπŸ™„
        They should inform people. That’s even a rule. But oh well🀷 To each their own.

        Of course you would! You’re very honest. πŸ‘

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  9. Great insights! One must keep in mind that whats been seen on social media do not give the whole picture. Wonderful that u spread this, thanks alot! 😊

    Im new to blogging, but would be more than happy to receive ur feedback on my latest posts. I try to shed some new light on the technological society we live in. Thanks a bunch and have an awesome day!

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  10. Exactly why I don’t consider Using Social Media. I am just a viewer on YouTube. I use my Mom’s WhatsApp.
    Instagram is mostly just begging for followers to increase social status. There are thots with filters. There are Celebs. Few Common People are there. Fewer with great content. Thankfully, those who do also own other platforms to show their work. Facebook is Filled with Karens. I think I’ll try Reddit before dying.

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      1. Just as you can find gentlemen on Facebook. Instagram is mostly bad too. I agree some great people are there but most are just there for followers
        WordPress is the best. No crime stuff. No bad thing. No follower begging. Just letting your heart flow.

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      2. Yeah, some great people are there but who says they aren’t on WordPress also?

        WordPress is by far the best. Presently, I’m spending more time on WordPress than any other platform.

        I’m just so happy with WordPress. So happy!!

        Amazing Jaguars like you πŸ‘ŠπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š

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      3. That’s great of you! Calling me Amazing. Damn. Noone said me that. Since you are a life coach so I will take it from you. I nominate you for The Kind to Jaguar Blogger Award. You can’t nominate anyone else. You just received it. Flood it in front of your ex. Nothing else. No questions to be asked. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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      4. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ very soon, many people will call you Amazing!

        Thanks for nominating me!!! I will take it to the jungle and nominate other Jaguars πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

        My ex🀣🀣🀣yeah, I think I’m in love πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  11. One thing I have learnt in this period is that when you begin to positively work on your perspective in life then everything ads up to your advantage and social media will just a tool to ease your life. Good piece Vincent πŸ’―

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    1. This is a very valuable lesson. And you are absolutely right for this!

      I really love this. Social media can actually be a tool to ease our lives, after we positively know which direction to go to πŸ‘πŸ½

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