This week, I have been studying the concept of toxicity. And some days, questions pop up in my head.
I figured out that most of us are concerned with the log of wood in people’s eyes, we ignore the ones in our eyes.
We point accusing fingers at people when we should be pointing it at ourselves.
We are showing people the right way, while we are going the wrong way.
Today, ask yourself these questions:
“Am I being a toxic person to my friend(s)?”
Am I concerned with the lifestyle of others, while I ignore my own?
Do I point accusing fingers at the people that are guilty of the same offense as me?
Ask yourself these questions.
Be genuine with your answers.
Be honest.
Sometimes, we need to ponder on these questions to set ourselves on the right track again.
This is a short message for you.
Are you complaining/angry with some people because of the same offense that you might even be committing knowingly or unknowingly?
Check yourself now.
This is an excellent question and one God certainly teaches and warns us about. I think judging others even in the smallest way is something we have to be mindful of. Excellent point and an important one. We are all creatures of sin so watching our behavior towards others is an excellent reminder my friend. Thank you. Love to you and your family. ❤️💕Joni
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Yes Joni. We shouldn’t judge anyone because God is the ultimate and just judge.
Thanks so much for this wonderful comment. I really appreciate it
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My pleasure my friend great message. ❤️ Joni
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Hmm… maybe I am being a little mean to my sister, even though I feel like she s being mean to me. I will try to change this.
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Heyy Selina.
If your sister is being mean to you, and you are also mean to her, then there isn’t going to be a change
You can try your best to be nicer to your sister, and trust me, when you are being nicer to her, it becomes contagious and your sister will be forced by her conscience to reconsider her ways to you.
Sometimes, you just have to take the first step to a greater good.
How are you doing? 😃
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Thanks for the advice, Vincent. But how am I supposed to be nice to her when she is so impossibly annoying?!
And I am fine, thank you!
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Firstly, look at the ways that she annoys you.
Study her. Is she always in a bad mood?
The first step is studying your sister. How and why is she so annoying. Is something going on and she’s becoming frustrated easily.
Does she do it on purpose?
Study and understand your sister well.
Then come back to me for further step.
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Okay, thank you.
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You’re so, so correct. Looks like it’s time to self-reflect!
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Yes, you are absolutely right! Purvasha
Thanks so much for reading 🙏😊
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Wonderful post which forces us to introspect. Well written!
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Thanks so much bro.
Please How do I say thank you In Hindi? 😃
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धन्यवाद । (dhanyavaad) dhanya=grateful Vaad=communication. Communicating your gratitude.
Or you can say shukriya. Derives from arabic shukram. It is urdu word. But urdu and hindi coexist.
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Wow, thanks a lot bro
I will screenshot this and memorize it
It will be cool to reply Indians on my blog with these 🤗
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Haha. They will be amazed.👍
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Disclaimer: Not all Indians know Hindi. There are 19,500 mother tongues in India 😂😂 It is very diverse.
But most do.
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😂😂😂😂😂😂19,500 😂wow!
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Yeah. The most diverse nation I believe.
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It sure is
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Brilliant question.. provoked many thoughts in me!
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That’s wonderful Aathmana! 😃
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How’s everything going?
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Going okay here.. the no of patients are increasing here though!😔
Anyways, how bout you?😃
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Well, I’m just experimenting with web designing
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Web designing?! Wow!
(*Although I don’t know how that works!😅)
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Those are great questions to ask yourself!😉
I think I know someone who may be a toxic friend, but she’s been going through rough stuff,I’m sure it’s just emotions being carried over.😕
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Yes Chloe
Hmmm, I like your understanding skills. You are a very good observant
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Touching lines, Vincent. Very well written. We need to see ourselves before judging others!
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Yes Nanchi
Thanks so much for reading 🙏
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Very insightful and challenging post. I will do some thinking around this, thank you Vincent.
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Thanks so much 😃
I’m happy that this post pushes you to do some thinking
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That’s a good question to ask ourselves
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Yes Anthonia
You are absolutely right!!
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Yes, I carry toxicity within me (due to my upbringing)–so I can be honest and say that sometimes I’m more guilty than those around me.
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Sometimes, we possess things because of our backgrounds and as such, we tend to feel bad.
But with God, you will live a better and enhanced lifestyle
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Yes, I am–thank you, Vincent 🙂 ❤
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You are highly welcome 🙏
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Me? Toxic? Nah. It’s everyone else! Everyone else! I can do no wrong. 😂😅 #sarcasm
On a more serious note, my tolerance for toxicity has declined over the years. I try to stay away from triggering people or remove the triggering source (social media, the news etc.) which is not always possible. Over the years, I noticed that I tend to get more agitated and irritated around toxic people. Also, I realize that my social skills could use some work. I have no friends and I struggle with conflict a lot… so I know part of the problem is me. I’m the type who cuts people out of my life ruthlessly and I know it’s a bit extreme, and it’s likely a coping mechanism I’ve adapted over the years to justify my loneliness. I’ve been practicing mindfulness for several years – I find its very helpful.
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Me too. There was a point in my life that I also tried to stay away from things that triggers it.
Sometimes we just need that “me” time in our lives
Mindfulness. Hmmm, I also want to practice mindfulness. Can you please brief me a little about it?
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Thanks so much bro 🙏
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Your blogs is as beautiful and inspirational as it should be.
Good job
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Thanks so much Prosper!
I really appreciate your thoughtful words
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Awesome post, you are VERY correct! If people understand this, the whole world would become a better place, I practice this and instead of seeing anger and the faults in that person, I see what I’ve done wrong too. Thank you!, do you have any secret tips to be such an amazing person….? DO YOU?!!?!!!??!😂😂
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Thanks so much!
Yeah, the world will really become a better place if people embraced this.
😃I have a secret tip. And fortunately, you also have the secret tip in you!
I’m amazing in my way, you are amazing in your way also!❤️👊
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Amazing tip Vincent🤩👊 *whisper whisper* thanks for telling me😂
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😂😂anything for you
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What a brilliant question that we do not ask ourselves 🙋♂️. Nice read Vincent something to think about.
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Thanks so much for reading and commenting
Yes, we need to think about this
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Hmm. Food for thought indeed!. May God help us learn to extend grace to others too.
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Amen 🙏
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Thanks so much!
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You’re entirely correct Vincent! I’ve started to check myself.
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Thanks Emmanuel, I’m glad you are checking yourself
Don’t mind me concerning the Whatsapp. I decided to take a long break from it.
I should have told you earlier. Sorry about that
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Oh no. I saw it on your status. No bothers…
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Oh that’s nice
Thanks for understanding bro
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You’re very welcome!
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It’s good to be honest.
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Yes Chido 😃it’s very good
How are you doing?
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I am doing well, thanks. I hope you’re keeping well too.
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That’s wonderful to hear!
I’m doing behest thanks
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