Sometimes I look at some people and say to myself “is this the reason for your coming into existence, just to spoil someone’s day?”
Right from the day we could discern our right from our left, we have always encountered a lot of people that substitute our positivity ✅ with negativity. ❌. And the funniest thing is, we just watch them as they do it!
We think we are helpless! We think we can’t really do anything!
We allow people who don’t even worth talking to, to spoil our entire day.
You wake up in the morning, the sun greeting you warmly, the birds singing “Good morning” you have this feeling in you that the day is going to be great and pleasant.
Then you get dressed for work or school, humming happy tunes to yourself as you make the journey to your place of work or your school.
Then at the entrance of your school or work, a random person walks up to you and says “Haaa! You look like a drenched cat who overslept and rushed down here”
And because of this hurtful remark, you confirmed the person’s statement and lived the rest of the day as a drenched cat, because a random person said so.
And thus, you left home with a sunshine expression, but you came back as a drenched cat. In other words, you allowed a random person to turn your sunshine to darkness.
Whose fault is it?
But if someone looks you in your face and says “You look like a drenched cat”
You can give in by accepting the person’s statement.
You can look the person back in the eyes and say “If being a drenched cat is what makes my day so shining and bright, then I’m fine with it” Then you walk out in style.
_____THE GIVER AND RECEIVER 💐
The giver stands for the people that comment or give out remarks.
The receiver is you.
Now, listen carefully.
The way you receive words from other people justifies the way you react.
Someone might laugh and say “Your hair looks great”
The person might be truthful and no harm meant.
But the way you receive that compliment is the way you will react.
You can see the compliment as sarcastic and reply like “excuse me, what do you mean? What’s wrong with you” taking offense already.
Or you can receive the statement as a genuine compliment and reply “thanks so much, but why did you laugh?”
So sometimes, it’s the perspective and point of view that we receive statements and remarks of people that dictates our reactions.
So a person might not have the intention of making a hurtful remark, but it depends on how you receive that remark and work on it.
Random people might spoil our day. But sometimes, we are the “random people”
Things that we ought to accept, overlook and shun, we take unnecessary offense in it and allow it to spoil our day.
So it’s a 2 in 1 thing.
Don’t allow that person’s remark to spoil your day. If they throw bitter lemons at you, take the coconut and throw it back at them. The coconut is harder and it will hit them hard. They won’t try it with you again.
And also, readjust the way you receive remarks and compliments from people.
Not everyone is hating on you or playing games with you. Most times, it’s your receiver’s perspective that mislead you into thinking so.
Have a fun day Family! Your smile is my inspiration ❤️