Can we call Toxic friends, bullies?
Or can bullies be interchanged as Toxic friends?
This question popped up in my mind as I was reading the blogs of Cheriewhite.
Cheriewhite.blog is all about Exposing Bullies and Liberating Targets to Make The World a Safer Place for All.
And she’s a grandmother who has many enlightening experiences with Bullying and their tactics. (I will do a detailed appreciation for her very soon)
As I was going through her blog, the question just came to me, so I decided to throw it open for all to answer.
I would say there is a difference between toxic friends and bullies. Toxic friends are draining they may not appear to be bad but they use and suck the life out of people they are around. They make you feel depressed and very tired. They are just not healthy to be around and it is better to step away from them.
Bullies I would say are physically abusive to people not just verbal. I have experienced verbal and physical abuse from women and children. These types are relentless in their evil behaviour. They believe they have a right to abuse you no matter what their reasons. Reason usually stem from their lifestyle.
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Hmm 🤔 this is a very deep explanation. I love it.
Toxic friends may not appear to be bad. That’s one of the key differences between toxic friends and bullies.
“They believe they have a right to abuse you no matter what their reasons. Reason usually stem from their lifestyle” This is actually very true.
From my own relatable experiences also, bullies just think they have a right to abuse.
Thanks so much for this 🙏
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You are very welcome.
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of course there is a difference between them. toxic friends are even more dangerous and hurtful. bullies might hurt you, but you will unconsciously develop a strength to overcome them… just like LADY GAGA did.
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Yes Aathmana. Toxic friends are more dangerous because most times, it’s always hard to detect their intentions early enough.
But with bullies, you already know their intentions toward you
Thanks so much for this Aathmana
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Yep you are right! Anyway you put up a sensible topic.😀😃
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Thanks so much Aathmana 🤗
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The difference between the 2, is that one of them teaches you a life lesson; while the other just sucks the life out of you (i.e. make you feel depressed).
Toxic friends are really easy to spot, because they only come to you for their selfish needs; whereas bullies harass you because they feel insecure (or some other reason).
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Thanks so much 😃I really love your view on this
While one teaches a life lesson, the other sucks the life out of someone
Thanks 😊
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Anytime, buddy 😃
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There’s definitely similarities between toxic friends and bullies. You may have a toxic friend, and not know it. Bullies are mean and are afraid to show it.
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Thanks so much Chloe! 😃
Yes, you are right. Most times, we don’t know our toxic friends
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This is a question I’ve always thought over, but couldn’t come up with an accurate answer. I see great replies here though!
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Yes, I’m glad you can find the answers here!
How are you doing? 😃
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Good good! How are you??
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That’s wonderful to hear! I’m also doing wonderfully well thanks 🙏
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There are similarities. A bully is a toxic person, because I mean no one wants to be around anyone with that attribute. A bully and a toxic person doubt your self worth.
The difference is that a bully attitude is more pronounced and noticed, a toxic person is more of a manipulative and feeds your mind with insecurities, inadequacies in the secret not openly but a bully does it openly.
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“…. a toxic person is more of a manipulative and feeds your mind with insecurities, inadequacies in the secret not openly but a bully does it openly.” I really love what you said here
Yes, I agree with your perspective. A bully is a toxic person.
Thanks so much for this Oyinkansola 🙏I really appreciate your time in dropping your wonderful and lovely thoughts
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For me…toxic friends tend to surround you with their blissful lies.they may not be harmful people but,they keep making you believe things that may drain you mentally and emotionally.
Bullies on the other hand portray the”hurtful truth”.
You already know what is within and what they want from you.
They dont sugarcoat you in anyway.
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Yes, toxic people will drain you mentally and emotionally. But bullies harass you in anyway and make it so obvious. They won’t sugarcoat.
I love that.
Thanks so much for dropping your wonderful thoughts! I really appreciate it
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In my opinion, i believe there are similarities as well as differences.
Similarities in the sense that both cause emotional abuse and derail one’s mental health.
Differences in the sense of fear. I will most definitely be afraid of a bully and not necessarily be afraid of a toxic friend, I’ll only avoid them.
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You have dropped wonderful points Ayomide.
Both cause emotional and mental instability, just like you said. That’s a major similarity.
And what you said about fear and avoiding is also true. While you can avoid toxic friends, fear is always visible with the bullies
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Thanks so much for this Ayomide
Very insightful and thoughtful
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You’re welcome😌
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I’d have to say it’s definitely possible they can be the same…not always, but sometimes. But we can walk away from toxic friends, whereas sometimes it’s hard to escape a bully. Blessings to you 🙂 ❤
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Yes, you are very true in saying this.
It’s definitely hard to escape bullies. Some bullies are just everywhere, while some will come look for you.
Thanks so much for this 🙏Amen! 🙏❤️
Showers of blessings to you also ❤️🙏
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Thank you so much for the blessings, I feel the cooling balm!💖😇
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❤️🙏🙏🎉🎊
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There is a difference between toxic friends and bullies.
Your bully is not your friend and that bully do not know much about you but a toxic friend knows some things about you and can use what he/she knows against you.
A bully may cause physical pain but a toxic friend will cause emotional and mental pain
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Anthonia!!!!! 😃
Your second sentence is bullseye! It struck a valid point!
Thanks so much for this! Wow!
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You are welcome
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I agree with Anthonia!
In addition, identifying a bully and recovering from their behaviour is way easier than that of a toxic friend.
Great post, Vincent!!
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Yes, recovering from the behaviors of a bully is easier than that of a toxic friend.
Very wonderful thinking 👏🏽
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Excellent question, Vincent! I would say there are both similarities and differences. A toxic friend is one that is a user and not sincere. They are usually insecure and demand attention. A bully is abusive and mean. They are also usually insecure and demand attention.
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I like what you said about toxic friends been users and not sincere. And from my own personal experiences, I can relate to the fact that they are usually insecure and demand attention.
The intentions of a bully is known. But that of a toxic friend might be really hard to spot out.
Both are insecure and attention demanding.
Thanks so much for this Eugenia 🙏🙏I really love this ❤️
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I believe there are differences and similarities. They both target the victim with emotional abuse which is very draining. Toxic people and bullies both dislike themselves and take pleasure in wounding others with their hurtful words and manipulation. 😣👣
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“… Toxic people and bullies both dislike themselves..” I really love this line.
And you are right. They take pleasure and fun in hurting others because they themselves are broken.
Thanks so much for dropping your wonderful thoughts!
I really appreciate it
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We can call toxic friends bullies in my opinion as both mean to hurt the other one, but sometimes a toxic friend doesn’t mean to hurt while a bully does mean to
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You are really right. Yes, we can call toxic friends bullies.
Thanks for this wonderful contribution
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No problem, I know as I have been bullied and e of my friend had a toxic friend
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I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts based on your experiences
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Thank you so much for mentioning me in your post, Vincent! This means a lot. Toxic friends and bullies are one in the same because they’re all toxic and they mean to harm and destroy your reputation, your confidence, self-esteem and happiness. I hope this helps anyone with any questions. Again, thank you so much. I’m forever grateful!
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It’s my utmost pleasure Cherie 😃
Yes, they are one in the same. I haven’t had much experiences with bullies, but I’ve definitely had with toxic friends
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Thanks so much for bringing up this whole issue
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You’re most welcome, Vincent! 🙂
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