When you love someone, you should love the person as they are, and not as you’d like them to be.💐

Have you ever loved someone as they are? Or you’ve loved them because of how you like them to be?

This is a simple yet deep topic.

The word “love” is the most complicated four letter word that I’ve seen. We think we fully understand it’s concept but as time goes, we realize that there’s more to this four letter word than we know.

And “love” in this post isn’t directed at only relationships. I’m talking of the overall concept of love, which includes how we relate with each other.

As humans, we have preferences. You have what you love to see in others. I have what I love to see in others. It’s quite different. And that’s part of the reasons we might make the mistake of loving people, not as they are, but as we would like them to be.

And that’s where the whole love thing starts getting complicated.

If that person doesn’t demonstrate the behaviors of which you’d like them to be, then everything comes crashing down. Because what you’d like them to be isn’t forthcoming again.

You get what I’m saying?

This is a short post that I believe can change your perspective.

You might not even know whether you love people as they are or as you’d like them to be. You might not even know which one exactly that you fit into.

That’s why I will give you some key observations and points.

If you love people as they are, these are the observations that you might experience.💐

✅ You will always look forward to the next encounter with them.

✅ You will feel a strong connection and alignment

✅ You will be so eager to hear what they have to offer. And you will be so willing to offer the same value (or more) to them.

But if you love people as you’d like them to be, you will:💐

❌Be more concerned about the value that they have to offer you. And not the value you have to give in return.

❌You will be more concerned about what you are expecting to receive from them. And will only be happy with them if you have received what they have to offer you.


Now, think about that person or those people.

Do you really love them because you feel a strong sense of connection and alignment? Or you love them because of the value they possess and how you can benefit from them?

Remember. For you to love, it means you are ready to give all you have to offer. Love is more of giving out value.

Be okay with people’s feelings. Love people as they are. Offering your values comes naturally when you really love that person for who that person really is and not what you wish or want that person to be.

Your smile is my inspiration 💐

Published by Vincent Ehindero

A co-founder and CEO of High Foster. Vincent is a humorous guy that has a wonderful talent of blending growth secrets with relatable experiences. He is also a founder of a nonprofit organization that focuses on developing children and youths.

22 thoughts on “When you love someone, you should love the person as they are, and not as you’d like them to be.💐

  1. Love is a complex emotion or vibration. Love flows freely from one to another when there is potential to expand the love energy in any kind of relationship. Unfortunately not many have the potential to love they only know the word love and it becomes meaningless.

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