As humans, we like being in control of what happens to us. Well, donāt you?
But you should also remember the fact that you are not omniscient. You donāt know all that will happen. And that alone causes change to be scary. More like fear of the unknown. Sometimes, as humans, we fear what we donāt know.
A young lady once came to me and said āVincent, Iām scared of the change Iām about to encounter because of a decision Iām about to makeā
āItās okay to be sacred. Itās okay to be afraid. Itās okay to have these mixed emotions.ā I replied her.
She looked me in the eyes and I could see the fear of change through her eyes.
Then I remembered something I read somewhere and said to her:
āYou canāt always control what happens to you or around you. But you can get to decide what you will do about itā I told her.ā
She smiled and left with the understanding of two (2) vital things I told her:
1. Change sometimes can be scary and itās okay for you to feel that fear. You canāt fight it. You canāt resist it. So far you donāt know the unknown, you might experience fear because you donāt know the unknown or the situations that will cause sharp changes.
2. But you can decide what you will do about it. You can decide how best you will address it.
Embrace change š
Today, if you have been having that feeling of fear if anything happens, know that you arenāt the only person in this.
I donāt know how tomorrow will be. You donāt also know.
But you can predict (but not control) and work towards what happens in that tomorrow. You can fix an appointment, arrange a meeting, fix dates, decide to travel, go visit someone, etc. You can do these but still, you feel you donāt know what will happen tomorrow, until that tomorrow becomes your today.
Why is this so?
Itās because apart from the things youāve set and arranged for tomorrow, tomorrow also has itās own surprises and changes that you arenāt aware of. And most times, these surprises come as a shock that you will have to adapt to change very quickly.
This is what makes change scary. This is why sometimes, you might fear change. When crazy things happen, it can make us feel helpless. That helplessness state is what makes change scary.
We donāt want to even think of things happening suddenly, because we wouldnāt be prepared for it. We wouldnāt know how to compose ourselves. We might feel helpless.
I am telling you this today, because I have to let you know why you feel the way you feel. And why you have to know these. So that anytime you experience such, you will understand that itās normal for you to feel that way.
Change, either deliberately or unforeseen, can be scary because you might not fully predict and control how it presents itself. But you can always decide what you going to do about it.
Embrace change š
Just as you canāt control the heavy rain, you can make drainages, bridges and water channels to prevent flood. So when the heavy rain comes, you decide what you will do about it.
Today, know that change might be scary. But remember that change is more afraid of you because you have the power to handle changes effectively. I believe in your power. I believe in you. š Your smile is my inspiration ā¤ļø
āChange is the only constantā, one of my favourite quotes. Also one of my mottos. To embrace change because resisting it will get you nowhere.
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Yes. Change is constant. I learnt this in school š
You are absolutely right!
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Totally agree!
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Preetha, how are you doing? š
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Cool Vincent! How are you? š
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š¤Iām as good as I can be!
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I know… because you are off from work, as this is weekend! š
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Youāve got pretty good understanding skills š¤
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š¤£š¤£š¤£ And you have found that!!! ā¤
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Well written!
A lot of people come to you for advice!
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Thanks for reading and dropping your wonderful comment
š Well, I wouldnāt give advices if it hasnāt been given to me from God
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Welcome!
šMr. Vincent is a self development coach.
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š š š well, you are the first person to say this to me.
I will always remember that Ishaan, was the first person to tell me that Iām a self development coach. š
All I need to do now is go learn a whole lot about coaching and attend coaching programs š¤
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As always, you’ve managed to give us another wonderful dose of motivation.
That quote at the end is quite inspiring!
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šSilver!
Thanks so much for reading. Iām glad it gave you insights š
Yeah, thanks for noticing š¤
I trust you are having a nice day?!?š
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No worries, I’m happy to read your posts. š
Yep, my day’s going swimmingly well. How about you?
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šššimmediately you said ā…swimmingly well…ā I remembered how I hid at home because I didnāt want to go to the swimming poolš
You see, I bragged to all my classmates during elementary school that I could swim very well. So when we supposed to have a hangout to go swim, I always looked for an excuse šš
So funny how your comment brought back those memories š
Iām actually doing good thanks š
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It’s quite a coincidence my comment made you nostalgic.š
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šššyeah
Thanks for that though
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Anytime š
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Yes very scary. However, with an open mind you will learn to embrace change. When you think it as your own growth or the whole community will benefit for such thing then you will appreciate change. Take care
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Yes! You can definitely embrace change. And when you embrace change, other people will also learn from your experiences and everyone will benefit!
Thanks so much for commenting. Iām glad to see you comment š¤
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Yes you always have a good output that anybody likes to comment.š Godbless
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š¤š¤š¤and you sure know how to make someoneās day with your compliments š
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Interesting as always!
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Thanks so much Aathmana!š
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Change always happens, we have to embrace it, else there is no learning! Well said Vincent.. it leaves a positive vibe reading thisāØš You are amazing āØāļø
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šyes, you got it all right! We just have to embrace change to learn.
Thatās the spirit! Thanks so much for reading and commenting š¤š¤š¤
I really appreciate your kind words
Simon, you are indeed an amazing human beingšš
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You are so kind to say that š¤ Have a wonderful Sunday āØš¤š
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šthanks so much
I will. And you too Simon
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I enjoyed reading your post. Change and leaps of faith are scary indeed, sometimes we have to just do it go ahead and flow with it. Knowing somewhere along the way we will land on our feet and have the knowledge of how to react. It is our reaction to change or things happening in our life which is the most important. More often than not people react badly to quick change unless it is a long awaited relief.
You dear Vincent are a very gifted young man. The way you approach people and how you advise them is with much wisdom. You encourage and coach others with good intent it shows clearly in your manner and writing. Be careful about the coaching programs you choose. Bless you.
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Let me first start by saying …You have indeed made me look at the post from a different perspective. Thanks for letting that happen š
Yes. Itās how we react and handle the situations that matters the most!
Yes, the default behavior in humans makes them react to change badly. But that behavior can always be worked upon.
Thanks very much for your compliments š In fact, what youāve said has strengthened my belief that I CAN DO IT šŖš½
Yes. I certainly will be very careful. And I wonāt rush it. I will start learning the basis of coaching from skilled coaches. I will follow coaches and build the relationship with them so that I know what they know. Then I will pray to God that he helps me. š
Then if I need advice, I will always come back to the amazing family members I have here (including you) for advice ā¤ļø
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You are welcome as you are a change bringer more than a coach.
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I loved reading this. It made so much sense.
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Thanks so much for taking your time to read and comment. Itās an honor to have you here š
You are a life coach?!? š I would sure love to learn a lot from you!
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I love change, I always prefer changes and it has never been hard for me to process it in fact I find changing times as an opportunity to upgrade even a little aspect in my life and I also think It is cool. Anyway just discovered your blog now and I am very grateful.
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Yes! š
Changes are a necessity to grow and for development in any aspect of life.
So glad to see that you embrace change.
Thanks so much for your wonderful comment šI really appreciate it
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Very welcome and thank you for taking your time to write such a helpful post.
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ššyour smile is my inspiration
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Thank you so much for the love. Welcome again and again for more good vibes.
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š¤š¤š¤thanks
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Just what I needed to hear
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Ladyp25! š
How are you doing?
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I am good! Thanks.
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Thatās great to know š
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Totally agree Vincent! š
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Thanks so much Curious.
I trust you are trying your best to stay positive?!? š
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Yes! Trying my best šš
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Yes! I know you are trying your best š¤š¤
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Wonderful post. I have learnt a lot.
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Anthonia! š
Iām glad youāve learnt a lot of valuable information ā¹ļø
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Beautifully written! Accepting that it is ok to feel scared about change and embracing change are great tools to get through life š
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Thanks so much for understanding the point! š
I really appreciate your lovely and insightful comment.
I trust that you are doing wonderfully well?!š¤
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You are welcome! I am doing well now thank you š Hope you are staying safe!
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š¤šso nice to hear that
Iām trying my possible best to stay safe and well.
Iām also open to gists if you have any š¤Ŗ
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Change is terrifying because of the unknown. It’s a good thing we humans are adaptable!
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Yes, you got it!
You are absolutely right. Because of our adaptable nature, we can handle change
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Thanks so much!!
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