As humans, we like being in control of what happens to us. Well, don’t you?

But you should also remember the fact that you are not omniscient. You don’t know all that will happen. And that alone causes change to be scary. More like fear of the unknown. Sometimes, as humans, we fear what we don’t know.

A young lady once came to me and said “Vincent, I’m scared of the change I’m about to encounter because of a decision I’m about to make”

“It’s okay to be sacred. It’s okay to be afraid. It’s okay to have these mixed emotions.” I replied her.

She looked me in the eyes and I could see the fear of change through her eyes.

Then I remembered something I read somewhere and said to her:

“You can’t always control what happens to you or around you. But you can get to decide what you will do about it” I told her.”

She smiled and left with the understanding of two (2) vital things I told her:

1. Change sometimes can be scary and it’s okay for you to feel that fear. You can’t fight it. You can’t resist it. So far you don’t know the unknown, you might experience fear because you don’t know the unknown or the situations that will cause sharp changes.

2. But you can decide what you will do about it. You can decide how best you will address it.

Embrace change 💐

Today, if you have been having that feeling of fear if anything happens, know that you aren’t the only person in this.

I don’t know how tomorrow will be. You don’t also know.

But you can predict (but not control) and work towards what happens in that tomorrow. You can fix an appointment, arrange a meeting, fix dates, decide to travel, go visit someone, etc. You can do these but still, you feel you don’t know what will happen tomorrow, until that tomorrow becomes your today.

Why is this so?

It’s because apart from the things you’ve set and arranged for tomorrow, tomorrow also has it’s own surprises and changes that you aren’t aware of. And most times, these surprises come as a shock that you will have to adapt to change very quickly.

This is what makes change scary. This is why sometimes, you might fear change. When crazy things happen, it can make us feel helpless. That helplessness state is what makes change scary.

We don’t want to even think of things happening suddenly, because we wouldn’t be prepared for it. We wouldn’t know how to compose ourselves. We might feel helpless.

I am telling you this today, because I have to let you know why you feel the way you feel. And why you have to know these. So that anytime you experience such, you will understand that it’s normal for you to feel that way.

Change, either deliberately or unforeseen, can be scary because you might not fully predict and control how it presents itself. But you can always decide what you going to do about it.

Embrace change 💐

Just as you can’t control the heavy rain, you can make drainages, bridges and water channels to prevent flood. So when the heavy rain comes, you decide what you will do about it.

Today, know that change might be scary. But remember that change is more afraid of you because you have the power to handle changes effectively. I believe in your power. I believe in you. 💐 Your smile is my inspiration ❤️

Published by Vincent Ehindero

A co-founder and CEO of High Foster. Vincent is a humorous guy that has a wonderful talent of blending growth secrets with relatable experiences. He is also a founder of a nonprofit organization that focuses on developing children and youths.


      1. 😂😂😂😂

        😅😅😅well, you are the first person to say this to me.

        I will always remember that Ishaan, was the first person to tell me that I’m a self development coach. 😅

        All I need to do now is go learn a whole lot about coaching and attend coaching programs 🤗

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      1. 🤗🤗

        😂😂😂immediately you said “…swimmingly well…” I remembered how I hid at home because I didn’t want to go to the swimming pool😂

        You see, I bragged to all my classmates during elementary school that I could swim very well. So when we supposed to have a hangout to go swim, I always looked for an excuse 😂😂

        So funny how your comment brought back those memories 😂

        I’m actually doing good thanks 😊

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  1. Yes very scary. However, with an open mind you will learn to embrace change. When you think it as your own growth or the whole community will benefit for such thing then you will appreciate change. Take care

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    1. Yes! You can definitely embrace change. And when you embrace change, other people will also learn from your experiences and everyone will benefit!

      Thanks so much for commenting. I’m glad to see you comment 🤗

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  2. Change always happens, we have to embrace it, else there is no learning! Well said Vincent.. it leaves a positive vibe reading this✨👍 You are amazing ✨✍️

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    1. 😃yes, you got it all right! We just have to embrace change to learn.

      That’s the spirit! Thanks so much for reading and commenting 🤗🤗🤗

      I really appreciate your kind words

      Simon, you are indeed an amazing human being😃💐

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  3. I enjoyed reading your post. Change and leaps of faith are scary indeed, sometimes we have to just do it go ahead and flow with it. Knowing somewhere along the way we will land on our feet and have the knowledge of how to react. It is our reaction to change or things happening in our life which is the most important. More often than not people react badly to quick change unless it is a long awaited relief.

    You dear Vincent are a very gifted young man. The way you approach people and how you advise them is with much wisdom. You encourage and coach others with good intent it shows clearly in your manner and writing. Be careful about the coaching programs you choose. Bless you.

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    1. Let me first start by saying …You have indeed made me look at the post from a different perspective. Thanks for letting that happen 😃

      Yes. It’s how we react and handle the situations that matters the most!
      Yes, the default behavior in humans makes them react to change badly. But that behavior can always be worked upon.

      Thanks very much for your compliments 🙏 In fact, what you’ve said has strengthened my belief that I CAN DO IT 💪🏽

      Yes. I certainly will be very careful. And I won’t rush it. I will start learning the basis of coaching from skilled coaches. I will follow coaches and build the relationship with them so that I know what they know. Then I will pray to God that he helps me. 🙏

      Then if I need advice, I will always come back to the amazing family members I have here (including you) for advice ❤️

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  4. I love change, I always prefer changes and it has never been hard for me to process it in fact I find changing times as an opportunity to upgrade even a little aspect in my life and I also think It is cool. Anyway just discovered your blog now and I am very grateful.

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