As humans, we like being in control of what happens to us. Well, don’t you?
But you should also remember the fact that you are not omniscient. You don’t know all that will happen. And that alone causes change to be scary. More like fear of the unknown. Sometimes, as humans, we fear what we don’t know.
A young lady once came to me and said “Vincent, I’m scared of the change I’m about to encounter because of a decision I’m about to make”
“It’s okay to be sacred. It’s okay to be afraid. It’s okay to have these mixed emotions.” I replied her.
She looked me in the eyes and I could see the fear of change through her eyes.
Then I remembered something I read somewhere and said to her:
“You can’t always control what happens to you or around you. But you can get to decide what you will do about it” I told her.”
She smiled and left with the understanding of two (2) vital things I told her:
1. Change sometimes can be scary and it’s okay for you to feel that fear. You can’t fight it. You can’t resist it. So far you don’t know the unknown, you might experience fear because you don’t know the unknown or the situations that will cause sharp changes.
2. But you can decide what you will do about it. You can decide how best you will address it.
Embrace change 💐
Today, if you have been having that feeling of fear if anything happens, know that you aren’t the only person in this.
I don’t know how tomorrow will be. You don’t also know.
But you can predict (but not control) and work towards what happens in that tomorrow. You can fix an appointment, arrange a meeting, fix dates, decide to travel, go visit someone, etc. You can do these but still, you feel you don’t know what will happen tomorrow, until that tomorrow becomes your today.
Why is this so?
It’s because apart from the things you’ve set and arranged for tomorrow, tomorrow also has it’s own surprises and changes that you aren’t aware of. And most times, these surprises come as a shock that you will have to adapt to change very quickly.
This is what makes change scary. This is why sometimes, you might fear change. When crazy things happen, it can make us feel helpless. That helplessness state is what makes change scary.
We don’t want to even think of things happening suddenly, because we wouldn’t be prepared for it. We wouldn’t know how to compose ourselves. We might feel helpless.
I am telling you this today, because I have to let you know why you feel the way you feel. And why you have to know these. So that anytime you experience such, you will understand that it’s normal for you to feel that way.
Change, either deliberately or unforeseen, can be scary because you might not fully predict and control how it presents itself. But you can always decide what you going to do about it.
Embrace change 💐
Just as you can’t control the heavy rain, you can make drainages, bridges and water channels to prevent flood. So when the heavy rain comes, you decide what you will do about it.
Today, know that change might be scary. But remember that change is more afraid of you because you have the power to handle changes effectively. I believe in your power. I believe in you. 💐 Your smile is my inspiration ❤️