Have you ever tried to build an healthy relationship with someone/people, but you just donāt know what went wrong?
Well, maybe at a point in your life, you might have used your own hands to consciously or unconsciously, killed a growing relationship with an individual/group of people.
Letās check out my 3 attitudes that you probably didnāt pay attention to and was ignorant of their consequences
1. When you are concerned with what you want to get, and not what you have to offer.āØ
Okay, this is the first on the list and the most common.
Anytime you find yourself in a friendship/relationship with someone, ask yourself these questions:
āWhy am I doing this? Are there sentiments to my relationship with this person? Am I here for money? For fame? For properties?ā
When you ask yourself these questions, you will know if your relationship with that person is brought up by what you want to get from that person.
But note this:
I understand that in a relationship, itās about what both sides have to offer each other. Itās normal for you to expect something in return (love, etc) But what you have to offer MUST come first. This will make you more effective and better-minded.
2. When you donāt respect privacyāØ
I was guilty of this until few years back.
Although, I wouldnāt say I was in a relationship, but it was something similar to a relationship, letās say close friends thingy. š
But I was always preying on her personal space. I wouldnāt give her the space she deserved. I would just come up from no where and want to know everything.
And if you are a lady, I think you relate to we guys giving you some personal space, right? š But sometimes, the guys can be stubborn š and if they donāt respect your privacy, unless you have a strong bond, you might avoid the guy, right?š same with the guys also.
So back to my story..
She basically started avoiding me! I would be coming from the right and she would turn left. I would come from the left and she would turn right.
But that was killing my relationship with her (again, not the relationship you think š ). It was killing my interactions with her.
I sat her down and I told her to explain things to me. She did.
It was then I discovered that if you donāt respect someoneās privacy, it can kill your relationship with that person really fast. š
3. When you donāt have solid goalsāØ
You must have solid goals.
If you are someone with the goals of āI want to be a known blogger soon, but the person you are having a relationship with is saying āI want to buy 24 pairs of shoes before this month endā Would you two ever be on the same level of motivation and solid goals?
Okay, fineee…both are goals right? Buying 24 pairs of shoes is a goal. Also becoming a known blogger is also a goal.
But think about it, as a person, who would you want to interact with or roll with? Is it the person with extravagant spending? Or the goals of the person with personal growth?
Think about it. And have solid goals.
I hope youāve been enlightened by this short article. As usual, itās about what I have to offer you that comes first. Thatās why we have such a close interaction with ourselves šš
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So good Vincent and so true. Love it!
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Thanks so much.
Iām glad you love the article š
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A good one in my view. Sadly, not many people in society are introspective and reflexive in relationship matters.
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Thanks so much Sir š
I really appreciate it š
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My pleasure. Welcome.
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Well written āŗļø
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Ayesha, thanks a lotš
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It’s beautiful Vincent š š keep spreading happiness as u always do š highly appreciated your content ā¤ļø
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Neha šš
I will always appreciate your marvelous words
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Thanks for your kindness š¤ š¤
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You are welcome š
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Nice write up, I’ll also like to say that selfishness is one of the the key destroyer of relationships. When you expect the other party to satisfy you whereas you’ve never thought about what the person also want
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Hmmm š¤ you have a solid point.
You are absolutely right. Selfishness is a master destroyer of relationships.
Thanks so much for this enlightening comment
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Each word of yours is true. And I am guilty of the the third one I think. A common wave length must be there to keep the relationship going. There must be some common ground.
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Thanks. š
Itās okay to feel guilty, but itās most important to clear your guilt by seeking the appropriate solution, which clearly, you have!!š
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Great insights – thank-you for sharing
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Thanks so much for reading
You are highly welcomeš
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Absolutely correct! Give them their space!š
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šššI know you will agree to that š
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They should be given their spaces, especially craft lovers š
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I really like the second point..š
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Thanks a lot.
Iām glad you like it āŗļø
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Interesting post.
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Kim! š
Thanks so much āŗļø
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This is true! Thank you for informing us!!
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ššyou are highly welcome š
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Excellent post, Vincent!
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Thanks so much Eugenia, Iām really grateful. How are you doing?š
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I am doing well, Vincent, and hope you are safe and well. š
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Thatās great to hear!
Iām doing wonderfully well, thanks for asking š
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True. Thanks for sharing
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Thanks š
You are highly welcome š
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Lovely
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Thanks so much š
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We should know to develop and maintain good relationships
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Yes. Thatās definitely something that not every human understands
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Our existence is dependent on good relationships
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Yes. And itās a good thing because we get to enlighten other people about it
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Crystal clear
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Thanks so much š
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