Written by Vincent Ehindero.
Happiness, a word of three syllables, is what we are all engrossed in finding. We tend to plan the way for happiness to locate us when truly, every single minute we spend, happiness is in it and we are blind to the fact that the happiness we are so bent on finding is what has been with us all along!
We would be going into some deep and revealing things about happiness and our orientation towards it.
1. You don’t plan for happiness. You do what is right and it catches you unawares
I noticed something about myself many years ago. I always do something and put my 100% mind to it. I made plans for finding happiness, but what I didn’t realize was the fact that, planning your happiness no longer makes it Happiness. Since you already know what to expect, it’s just a kind of dopamine exhibition (reward seeking). Real happiness comes and catches you unawares.
I helped my parents to do something that I do best. I did what was right and a few days later, I got a long awaited gift package from them. That was true happiness. I didn’t waste time trying to find it, because trying to find happiness is time wasting and frustrating. I instead did what I loved doing and got benefits from both sides. I acquired happiness in the process of doing what I love, I also acquired happiness as a reward for doing what I love doing and doing it best. Do what you love doing, what you are best at, you won’t waste time looking for happiness, you will acquire happiness instead.
2. Stop taking your happiness pulse.
Measuring your happiness doesn’t increase it. It might just discourage you. It’s like being on a diet, trying to lose weight. You know, getting on the scales every day when you’re on a diet to discover that you only lost 1/8 lb. Obsessed with finding happiness, we prevent ourselves from acquiring it. So when the so called happiness you were trying to find doesn’t come as expected, what do you do? Cry? Get depressed? Give up? Become frustrated? Just ask yourself. What would you do when the happiness you sort for your entire life doesn’t come as expected. In Education, marriage, business, relationships, etc.
You were taking the pulse of your happiness, measuring your happiness, trying to seek happiness where it never truly was, instead of you to be the happiness you are seeking, create the happiness you so longed for, pick out the happiness from what you do and not what you want to do. Because if you end up not doing what you planned to do, that means you don’t get happy or what?
Don’t measure your happiness. I’m telling you, you will never grow in self esteem and will power from doing that.
3. Happiness is a life-long pursuit.
All the awards, achievements, recommendations, celebrations are temporary happiness that we are engrossed in finding. “Happily ever after” is hard work that never ends. Live each day as happy as you can. A day lost in misery is gone forever. So now, make a promise to yourself, not me, that you will live every day of your life happily. Promise yourself. If you aren’t happy, how will you make people happy? How will you bring smiles on people’s faces? Don’t be engrossed in finding temporary happiness. Be your happiness. Yes, I mean it. Be your own happiness. If you look at yourself, and you find a deep reason in you to be happy, hold on to that reason and it will explode and bloom. You wouldn’t have any cause, I repeat, any cause, to seek outside temporal happiness again.
Remember that your smile is my inspiration. I love you very much. ❤️☘️